my wife has bought more guns without telling me than I have without telling her,the good thing is she gives them to me
I always find it best not to lie to her about anything,one lie no matter how minor can set the tone for a whole marriage and not for the good,I love my wife more than any gun,well,,um ,

Vodkin wrote:my wife has bought more guns without telling me than I have without telling her,the good thing is she gives them to me
I always find it best not to lie to her about anything,one lie no matter how minor can set the tone for a whole marriage and not for the good,I love my wife more than any gun,well,,um ,

Damn...sounds nice Vodkin. That's the kind of relationship I'm holding out for. Honesty.

I bought my last gun without saying anything. It's easy enough since we don't live together, and she's not really into guns and doesn't know the diff. My dealer has the new CZ Redhead Sporting O/U available now though and I can get it for about $950. She would probably notice another stack barrel on the wall with the others, so I'm not sure I want to try to sneak it past her. However, I don't need her permission, which she usually points out, but she does think I should be spending my money on things I need (of which there are plenty). Also, she is interested in trap shooting and I need to find a nice, light 20 ga auto with a reduced length of pull which she can use, and if I buy another trap gun for me, rather than one she can use, she might not look kindly on it.

Unclemeat wrote:I bought my last gun without saying anything. It's easy enough since we don't live together, and she's not really into guns and doesn't know the diff. My dealer has the new CZ Redhead Sporting O/U available now though and I can get it for about $950. She would probably notice another stack barrel on the wall with the others, so I'm not sure I want to try to sneak it past her. However, I don't need her permission, which she usually points out, but she does think I should be spending my money on things I need (of which there are plenty). Also, she is interested in trap shooting and I need to find a nice, light 20 ga auto with a reduced length of pull which she can use, and if I buy another trap gun for me, rather than one she can use, she might not look kindly on it.

Why did you have to bring up a good point? Good tires on their vehicle are something that most people could use. On the other hand, a good o/u 20 ga is something I could use also.

Good luck with the baby Carl, marriage is all about compromise. It takes trust to compromise and you have to be honest with each other in order to trust each other. It helps if you can get her interested in the shooting sports and the outdoors in general. When you are young and building a family and she doesn't shoot or hunt she will resist you being involved in an activity that will take up time away from her and the baby. I've never hid anything from my wife and we've been together since 1975.

Lying is usually not a good idea. Better to tell her you know how she feels, but this is what you are going to do. Take her to dinner after your purchase.

If the next gun I come home with a gun isn't a P238 Rainbow, I'd have to be prepared for alternate living conditions.

She knows I think they look...odd, and that I know she wants one. It won't be like the 1911's I'll bring home 'for her'.

There are lies of commission and lies of omission.

I never actively lie to my wife about my guns. But there are advantages to collecting old guns: to the untrained eye, "they all look alike." Another advantage is that I had a couple rifles when she met me. Then our son gifted me a cool VZ24 Mauser.

Once a collector gets about three rifles, the untrained eye stops counting somehow. Now I can bring one out, saying, "This is my such and so I've had since I was a kid."

The trouble begins when the safe over flows.

Then, you build a second layer in there by making a little rack to keep the layers apart; use gunsocks--don't ask me how I know. That works until the second layer fills up when the collector must get creative. It helps to have a friend with a huger safe.

CDFingers

I wouldn't say anything, just get it and don't make a big deal over it. My wife grew up with all sisters and she doesn't get it, and never will. She see it as a very low class backwoods hobby. She was surprised when she realized all the people o shoot with are also white collar professionals.

Just get it and don't create problems.

"No dear, that is not a new guitar, it's really quite old."

Gun socks. Or so I an told.

My vote's also for honesty. Although that may be easy for me to say since my wife bought me my Saiga 12 for my last birthday and I pretty much had to talk her out of letting me buy a Kobra red dot for it yesterday.

well, I took the wife out for a celebration dinner lastnight because she got a promotion lastweek and I had a heart to heart with her. before I even started the conversation she immediately said 'No.' She said, "is this about a gun? because you have that smile on your face." I said yeah it is and basically told her how I felt about it and why I wanted a new gun. she said she was mainly worried about money, but I had to reassure her that we had enough in savings. I told her my budget and what kind of rifle I was going to get and she eventually backed off. she told me her main concern was that the gun purchases would never end. I told her that it probably wouldn't but that it's not like I would go out and make multiple gun purchases without telling her. also, with her being pregnant i'm not going to squander our savings.

i'm glad we talked about it and that she finally agreed. as an after thought, the one thing that still irks me though is that she spent about $1300-1400 on a trip to Cabo San Lucas this past January and I didn't make a stink about it. so if she chooses to throw the gun purchase in my face i'll remind her of that trip.

Glad it worked out.

Carl_Spackler wrote:well, I took the wife out for a celebration dinner lastnight because she got a promotion lastweek and I had a heart to heart with her. before I even started the conversation she immediately said 'No.' She said, "is this about a gun? because you have that smile on your face." I said yeah it is and basically told her how I felt about it and why I wanted a new gun. she said she was mainly worried about money, but I had to reassure her that we had enough in savings. I told her my budget and what kind of rifle I was going to get and she eventually backed off. she told me her main concern was that the gun purchases would never end. I told her that it probably wouldn't but that it's not like I would go out and make multiple gun purchases without telling her. also, with her being pregnant i'm not going to squander our savings.

i'm glad we talked about it and that she finally agreed. as an after thought, the one thing that still irks me though is that she spent about $1300-1400 on a trip to Cabo San Lucas this past January and I didn't make a stink about it. so if she chooses to throw the gun purchase in my face i'll remind her of that trip.

They have different priorities my friend, that's why I wouldn't have even told her. Trust me you will end up in the same conversation next time.

For instance...

How could you buy a gun know, we still need to remodel the kitchen, or we never got proper drapes for the living room. Or when are we going to replace that recliner. I though we were going to have a vacation this year. We need the money to remodel the baby's room and get all new furniture.

See where I'm going, in her eye it's the same as burning your money.

Phew.. Glad I got that out.

Carl_Spackler wrote:she told me her main concern was that the gun purchases would never end. I told her that it probably wouldn't but that it's not like I would go out and make multiple gun purchases without telling her.

Was that her main problem? Good luck for you if it is! Be glad you're not in this woman's shoes:
http://www.calguns.net/calgunforum/show ... p?t=578340

So, where do you get these "free heavy duty gun safe{s}?" I could really use one of those!

Carl_Spackler wrote:i'm glad we talked about it and that she finally agreed. as an after thought, the one thing that still irks me though is that she spent about $1300-1400 on a trip to Cabo San Lucas this past January and I didn't make a stink about it. so if she chooses to throw the gun purchase in my face i'll remind her of that trip.

Many women have a double standard. It's the way they were brought up.

Many men tend to like a woman "Just the way she is" Many women see a man as something they can change to their liking.

It's interesting that among my female friends, none of them are like this.

I have met those kind of women and they are not my friends. We have nothing in common. They are only interested in their gossipy husband bashing friends.

Buck13 wrote:
So, where do you get these "free heavy duty gun safe{s}?" I could really use one of those!

I got mine through a relative. my wife's aunt's dad is in his 80's, handicapped and no longer participates in shooting sports. he offered the gun safe to me last November but I only recently picked it up. it was very generous of him and considering how expensive gun safes are it's just one less gun-related item I have to buy.

GuitarsandGuns wrote:

Carl_Spackler wrote:i'm glad we talked about it and that she finally agreed. as an after thought, the one thing that still irks me though is that she spent about $1300-1400 on a trip to Cabo San Lucas this past January and I didn't make a stink about it. so if she chooses to throw the gun purchase in my face i'll remind her of that trip.

Many women have a double standard. It's the way they were brought up.

Many men tend to like a woman "Just the way she is" Many women see a man as something they can change to their liking.

It's interesting that among my female friends, none of them are like this.

I have met those kind of women and they are not my friends. We have nothing in common. They are only interested in their gossipy husband bashing friends.